OK before I start writing anything I just want to point out that I am not talking about total Bull Shit stuff like winning a lottery ticket or making money in a casino, so please don’t read this excerpt with that frame of mind.
We don’t always get what we want.
I know this, but have great trouble accepting the fact. I just can’t come to terms with the concept that there is something out there, within our reach, yet that still evades us no matter how hard we try to reach out for it.
I am not limiting this to simple day-to-day instances such as getting a good grade in a course or convincing someone that our approach towards a certain problem is the best one. I am also transcending this concept to gaining/ losing others acceptance or in other words not being able to win or lose others friendship and trust.
One thing that gets me really frustrated is when someone I really do give a shit about (a good friend or someone I want as a friend), doesn’t feel the same way and is oblivious to all my efforts in trying to keep the friendship going. You know we can try five times, maybe ten times, but there is a limit. No matter how hard we try, everybody has a limit and self-respect right?
Someone once told me while talking about a similar topic – “If they don’t care, why should you?… Just don’t.” At first I thought its easier said than done. I mean how can I just stop caring about someone who is important to me. But, I guess now I realize what that person meant. Nobody is worth unlimited amount of effort and now that my limit( no matter how small or large it may be) has passed. So guess what, I don’t care anymore. If they come forth then ill be more than happy but I am not going to spend another minute thinking about how to keep them happy.
People come, people go. If we keep going on reverse and try to hold on to something we never really had, we will be stuck in the middle of nowhere.We will lose what we could have had, had we not been so hell-bent on the past. Just accept the fact and MOVE ON.