Hypocrisy or in simple words, acting different with different people. Is it really that bad?

All of us in our own ways are hypocrites I haven met a single person or rather can’t imagine a single person who is totally genuine, who is true to himself and to others, for whom everyone is the same when it comes to how he acts around them. Hypocrisy is not just about acting different in various social circles but also failing to act so to the things we condemn others about.  We tend to overlook our own shortcomings when we give others advice on the same aspects.

Coming back to my original point, is this a good thing or a bad thing? Or is it more of a necessity than a self-inflictedchoice? There are many ways to look at this and as it happens for most cases, there is no right or wrong, it’s all about personal preferences.

Firstly before I write anything, I would just like to mention, I am probably one of the biggest hypocrite I know and I am trying hard to change that.

Most of us tell people what they want to hear and not what we want to say. When we think that a girls dress looks hideous, we say it looks beautiful. Whenever someone asks us if they have lost weight, without even looking we say yes. We never tell a singer that her voice sucks or a dancer that we hate her moves or even an artist that their sketches are weird and ugly. Is this Hypocrisy? Yes. So, do you think its wrong to do so?

There are many kinds of people out there, some happy-go-lucky, some serious, some emotional, some sensitive, some this some that. Now if we want to gain a ticket to their comfort zone, we cant expect to be the same around all these people. We need to match our actions to theirs, match our words to theirs and our emotions to theirs. In short we need to be hypocritical in our actions and words. Again, is this wrong?

Most of us till now will fail to see the fallacies or the negatives of Hypocrisy. As I said earlier we fail to see and correct ourselves on those same points we tell others to correct. While telling someone that we should not be over analyzing everything around us, we fail to do so ourselves. Similarly we tell others not to be hypocrites but we fail to see the hypocrisy within ourselves. What I wanna put across is that unless we act on our own words, its wrong to ask others to do so and That is the biggest downside of hypocrisy.

Apart from the above point, I would also like to add that there are only few people who actually deserve out changed attitude and personality and most of them are limited to business contacts. For most others, like our friends and acquaintances, we should be ourselves not just for us, but for them as well. Dont they deserve to know who we really are? Dont they have a right to decide if they want to be our friends based on our true selves? They do. Lets not be so selfish.

Being a social whore is not the right thing to do. It wont help us in the end. It may lead to a few people liking us in theshort-term, but as soon as they get closer to us, they will start moving further away. So guys, no matter what happens,let’s be true to ourselves.

Cheers!!!

P.S : Thats my New Years Resolution. I hope I stick to it.